Today is my birthday…I have learned so much in my life and there is so much more to learn.
As I reflect back…there are things that I would have wanted to know before I had kids.
But I can’t lie, in many ways I am glad that I had to learn through experience and by sharing with my mother and by remembering the ways that my grandmother dealt with parenting issues since she was my ‘mom’ when my own mother was working.
Anyway, I post this today in celebration and thank you to all who have made this a Happy Birthday!
I read the above post today and I really did not enjoy it…maybe it was the language that was used ….perhaps, it was just that I did not relate to what this mom had to say at least, not in the way that she chose to say it.
What I can relate to, is the fact that looking back there is plenty that I personally wish I had known before having kids of my own.
But then again…may be knowing too much would have take away some of the joys that come with learning new things too late to use them in your own life but not too late to use these nuggets of knowledge with your grandchildren.
Here is my list of “Wish I Had Known…”
- Having a baby would change my life forever and ever…for me this was a good change.
- Two children are more than double one and three is exponentially more than three and so on….
- Two babies in diapers is TWO in diapers ….two in diapers cannot be that difficult is not a true statement.
- Having kids close in age is not necessarily better…they will not necessarily be very close to each other nor friends.
- Children are all different when it comes to toilet training…
- You can help your children to self-soothe themselves to sleep.
- You should not establish a bedtime habit with your kids that you won’t want to continue until they graduate from high school.
- You do not need to carry around guilt for a lifetime if you did not breast feed.
- Pregnancies and deliveries are all different …
- There are really good reasons to have to have a c-section.
- Temper tantrums can be diffused…read “The Happiest Toddler on the Block by Dr. Harvey Karp.
- Do not be the one to hold your child when they get ‘shots’ or any invasive procedures…be present only as support for hugs and kisses afterwards.
to be continued….
I could go on indefinitely.
However, the more I learn makes me realize how ‘simple’ my life was 30 years ago without the internet. It makes me appreciate the importance of my own mother’s understanding and help.
It was enough knowledge then…it had to be…
What things do you wish you had known before having kids?